Tuesday, 31 January 2017
Why You Shouldn't Compare Yourself To Others
Comparing yourself to others is something I'm pretty sure we all do. I used to be someone who compared myself to others non stop. I won't lie I still do sometimes but nowhere near as much as I used to.
I'm 17 now and around the ages of 12 to 15 it got so bad that I emotionally made myself feel like shit. Like so bad. I would look in the mirror and see a list of endless things I hated about myself. My eyebrows were too big, my nose was too big, I hated how not flat my stomach was and the way my knee's looked. Anything someone could have felt self conscious about, I didn't like about myself. I hated when I looked in the mirror and just hated what reflected back.
Then going back on social media like facebook and instagram and seeing girls who looked so good. Who had a perfect stomach, who had perfect skin, perfect hair and girls who looked so pretty. I asked myself why I couldn't be like them. The 'Tumblr' girls are the girls I'm talking about. I'm sure alot of you know what I mean but incase you don;t here are a few examples.
That is a horrible way to put yourself down. It took me so long to realize that even the girl who I think looks perfect doesn't like something about herself and is self conscious of something. Have you ever looked at someone in a bus or a shop and in your opinion they look amazing, and you get a bit sad that you may never see them again. Someone could look at you like that at any time and you wouldn't know. Just because there are things you don't like about yourself doesn't mean that someone else won't see beautiful things about you. We all have flaws and things about ourselves that we hate. I think trying to accept them and feeling somewhat comfortable with them is very difficult but once you have almost achieved it, it makes life kind of easier.
As of right now I am definitely not as bad as I used to be. It took alot of tears and alot of feeling crap but without that I wouldn't have gotten to where I am. I still compare myself but thankfully it's not as bad.
I think it's so important not to compare because again everyone is so different so unique. This might sound so cringe for anyone who doesn't like reading things like this but.. there is no one in the world like you (unless you have an identical twin or a doppelganger, even then there are still differences) you may as well own it. And stay true to yourself. It's important to feel confident in your own body, but it's also okay not to, it takes so long to fully feel confident.