DONATING MY HAIR!

Hey everyone, it's definitely been a while. But I thought I'd come on to talk about me donating my hair! It was originally my sisters idea to donate her hair, and I kinda copied her because I really wanted to do it too! We've been wanting to donate our hair since last summer but have waited until now to do it!

We donated our hair to the Rapunzel Foundation, which is an amazing organisation that  makes wigs for people who have Alopecia (partial or complete loss of hair).

The Steps We Took For Donating Our Hair

1. We first had to decide which organisation we wanted to donate our hair to. We had the choice of donating to the Little Princess Trust or Rapunzel Foundation. Ciara and I chose the Rapunzel foundation because we could donate 14+ inches, and as the organisation was really close to our hearts. 
2. The second step we took was finding a hair salon that could help us donate our hair. I got some advice from a friend that had donated her hair, and she suggested one that close to where I live. The Rapunzel website gives hair salons that are registered with them, that are close to where you live. On the top of the website it will say 'Find your nearest salon' and will give a bunch of places that are close to you.
3. We then made an appointment with the hairdresser and asked her what we should do to prepare our hair. I freshly washed my hair the day before, I put some oil in my hair because I have dry hair this softened it and made it less dry. I shampooed and conditioned as normal, after that I also used the L'oreal Elvive Extraordinary Oil Nourishing Mask Balm this is an incredible product, it helped my hair feel soft not dry and nourished and it smells incredible. I naturally dried it and then I straightened it.  
4. After that the hairdressers (who were incredibly nice and really talented) did everything else. They brushed my hair, put it into the ponytail, cut the ponytail and then straightened my hair and styled it. 
5. After that we just wrote down our name and address so the Rapunzel Foundation could confirm receiving our hair, and send us a thank you card.

We were so happy we did this, it was such an incredible experience and it is definitely an incredible cause. I also vlogged the entire experience. It is over on my YouTube Channel  

Chilled Evening Chats

Hey everyone, it's definitely been a while since I've sat at my laptop and written a Blog Post. It's definitely been a hectic couple of months and things have just been so crazy lately. My Blog is something I love writing and I need to find the balance between my Blog, my YouTube Channel, my school life, and my personal life. Balancing that at the moment has been crazy but I'll get there sometime.

My last post was just over a month ago, and since then I've been feeling great. I definitely had a few down moments but as of right now I am doing really well. To me there is nothing better than the comfort of sitting at my bed writing a new post with dimmed fairy lights. I love ittt.

I just wanted to talk about a few things tonight. This school year has definitely been one of the best ever. I am so happy I did Transition Year, even though it's an extra year of school this year so far has been so important to me. Because this year is less school work and academic based I find myself really enjoying it. If you've read my posts before you may know that I find school incredibly hard I am just not the brightest spark when it comes to school work. I would always find myself staying quiet in class because I never knew the answer and even if I did I would be afraid to say it. This year I have definitely come out of my shell, and become so much more confident and focused. Last year, I would never have talked to some people in Year because I was too afraid to, this year I have almost had a conversation with everyone. That definitely shows alot for me. Transition year gives you so many opportunities to do new things, and try new things. Things you wouldn't have ever really seen yourself doing or trying. My point is because of it, I've become so much more confident with myself, with talking to people and even with not giving a shit of what people think of me. I am me and if someone doesn't like that, that is not my problem.

 I used to be so self conscious of my YouTube channel, but as of now I don't care who finds out. Having a YouTube channel is becoming the normal thing, and it's something I love and something I want to work really hard on. If people don't like what I post that's fine.

The whole moral of this is to do what YOU want to do and what makes you feel more you and makes you happy. It's sad that some people have nothing better to do than make fun of others and over look their lives.

You do you and slay x

I don't understand

I don't understand how people can be so horrible? I'm talking about the people that make fun of people who are either doing something different to what is considered the 'normal hobby' or to people who simply dress differently, or talk differently or are just different in general. There is so much pressure on everyone to be a 'certain way' now and it's disgusting. There's even pressure in what someone wears, how someone does their makeup, or who someone is in a relationship with.

The harsh reality is we're all struggling with things in our own life, we all have shit to deal with and that is just life. No one needs that extra shit, being laughed at or made fun of no one fucking deserves that. For example at school, we can all think of people who get made fun of or are the center of people's jokes instantaneously. The fact that we can think of these people off the top of our heads is sad. Maybe it's just me but usually the people who get picked on are some of the nicest people you could ever meet, and they definitely don't deserve that. Imagine being afraid to walk into school or going shopping for fear that you're gonna be laughed at by people who clearly have nothing better to be doing. Going to school at least once everyday someone is laughed at, someone is made feel like shit and that is not fair. What gives that person the right to think it's okay to ruin someone's confidence like that? Nothing. Nothing gives anyone the right to belittle someone like that, but yet it's happening everyday all over the world.

I just have one thing to say to the people who laugh and belittle others, how the fuck would you feel if the tables turned and you were being laughed at? Just stop and focus on your own life, and leave people alone. You don't have to love everyone but you don't have to hate on them.

I have gotten made fun of and laughed at sometimes over my Blog and my YouTube channel, and being honest that hurt me so much. I have wanted to have my own Blog for years and my own YouTube channel for a while, I was super excited to finally do it but absolutely terrified. My Blog was the first of my adventures I guess and I love it to bits, I just love how you can communicate with people and it's perfect. I got a few people saying they didn't like it and even a few people saying they hated it. That's fine I don't expect everyone to love me or what I do. But if you don't like someone you usually don't want anything to do with them or let alone read something they've written, or in turn watch a video they've made. On the bright side at least I'm doing something I want to do with my life. And who the fuck knows maybe it won't be successful but that doesn't matter I'm still doing the things I love yet the person making fun of me or others is hating on me..

You can't control what people say about you but you can control how you feel about it. The reality is everyone's going to have something to say about you and not all will be lovely and sweet. You do you and don't let's someone else bring you down, life's too short for that.

Fiona.

Why You Shouldn't Compare Yourself To Others

Comparing yourself to others is something I'm pretty sure we all do. I used to be someone who compared myself to others non stop. I won't lie I still do sometimes but nowhere near as much as I used to.
I'm 17 now and around the ages of 12 to 15 it got so bad that I emotionally made myself feel like shit. Like so bad. I would look in the mirror and see a list of endless things I hated about myself. My eyebrows were too big, my nose was too big, I hated how not flat my stomach was and the way my knee's looked. Anything someone could have felt self conscious about, I didn't like about myself. I hated when I looked in the mirror and just hated what reflected back.
Then going back on social media like facebook and instagram and seeing girls who looked so good. Who had a perfect stomach, who had perfect skin, perfect hair and girls who looked so pretty. I asked myself why I couldn't be like them. The 'Tumblr' girls are the girls I'm talking about. I'm sure alot of you know what I mean but incase you don;t here are a few examples.

That is a horrible way to put yourself down. It took me so long to realize that even the girl who I think looks perfect doesn't like something about herself and is self conscious of something. Have you ever looked at someone in a bus or a shop and in your opinion they look amazing, and you get a bit sad that you may never see them again. Someone could look at you like that at any time and you wouldn't know. Just because there are things you don't like about yourself doesn't mean that someone else won't see beautiful things about you. We all have flaws and things about ourselves that we hate. I think trying to accept them and feeling somewhat comfortable with them is very difficult but once you have almost achieved it, it makes life kind of easier.

As of right now I am definitely not as bad as I used to be. It took alot of tears and alot of feeling crap but without that I wouldn't have gotten to where I am. I still compare myself but thankfully it's not as bad.

I think it's so important not to compare because again everyone is so different so unique. This might sound so cringe for anyone who doesn't like reading things like this but.. there is no one in the world like you (unless you have an identical twin or a doppelganger, even then there are still differences) you may as well own it. And stay true to yourself. It's important to feel confident in your own body, but it's also okay not to, it takes so long to fully feel confident.

You're not Innocent!

In 2013 'You're not Innocent' by Australian singer and songwriter Codi Kaye went viral. It is a song about this girl who got bullied so much she turns to suicide, it shows the pain of her family and the pain of her friends. The people bullied  her so much she couldn't handle it. It asks the bullies how they feel now shes gone. 'You can try you can plead but you're not innocent'. I love this song so much, it is so descriptive and gets the message across so well. You're not Innocent- Codi Kaye: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIRyM8b0pIM
I would highly recommend you to watch and listen it is incredible. This song gave me the inspiration for this post.

Ever since I stumbled across this song, I can't get it out of my mind, the message behind it is so strong and heartfelt. The sad reality of today is a lot of people are getting bullied, or made fun of. So many people are being laughed at either at school, at work or online sometimes even when they're not there. They are made a topic to laugh at, and they can't eve stand up for themselves because they're not there. It is disgusting and horrible. Anyone who thinks it's okay to laugh at anyone in a demeaning manner in my opinion is a bully.

I know from experience that having someone laughing at you is horrible and makes you feel like crap. Alot of people already have enough things going on in their life as it is they don't needed added sadness and stress. Bullying can range from anything from laughing or being mean to someone or
saying nasty things to people and physically harming them.

I really don't understand what someone can get out of making another person feel bad, making another person depressed and suicidal. Alot of people don't realize that what they are are doing is bullying.They simply think they are 'messing' or joking around. Although I know that there is extreme bullying where people can say really horrible things things like ' go kill yourself' I don't think that can ever be said in a joking manner. At the end of the day we are all humans, we all experiance pain we all have our own shit going on in our life, we don't deserve to be treated like this nor should we allow ourselves to do this to someone else. It is horrible.

Think of it this way. You find school really difficult, you don't like going. Alot of people think its funny to take the piss out of you. Yet they don't know the power of their words or the impact on what they are doing. They think it's 'funny'. Is it funny that you want to get out of school because you can't handle the constant sniggers or the 'jokes' the sarcastic comments?
 Do they think it's funny that you go home crying everyday? That it adds to your anxiety? That it puts you in a bad mood when you get home? That it can make you feel worthless and not loved. That sometimes it can make you want to go and end it all. The things that these people think are 'jokes' are the reason you find it hard to leave your house, and really hate gong to school.
That is not funny. NO matter what.

We all deal with pain in different ways and just because someone doesn't mind the 'jokes' doesn't mean that another person will. It is not fun to be the center of someone's entertainment and fun. It's not fun to go home wondering why it's always you people want to pick on. Wondering why people hate you so much.

How would you feel if you picked on someone because you thought you were only joking and having fun. And then that person commit suicide, how would you feel? That person was so hurt they couldn't live their own life anymore. Their blood is on your hands. Please be careful with your words and actions because you never know how what is going on in someone's life or how things can get to them. Again, just because it doesn't bother you doesn't mean it won't hurt another person.

If you think you're 'joking' or 'taking the piss' think again and think about how someone else would feel and how you would feel if people bullied you. It is bullying.

I may come across as very harsh in this, and fair enough. But I am SO sick of seeing people making people feel like crap and laughing about it. Just think before you speak that is all I'm asking.

If you or anyone you know is going through a hard time with people picking on you, please talk to someone you don't deserve to go through this. Talk to someone you trust you're not alone.

Stay strong x